When you want to attract a relationship, make sure your thoughts, words, actions, and surroundings Don’t contradict your desires. Are you looking and feeling your best? Is there room in your wardrobe for the new relationship? Is your camera ready to capture the pictures of the new relationship? Think of the actions you would take in preparation for the relationship and do as many of them as you can. Are you ready to receive, or are your actions (or lack of them) contradicting your desire?